Hyehudi often discusses the science of preserving personal responsibility in politics, but this is just as true on a micro level, with Chinuch, with psychology (William Glasser’s Choice Theory), and even with picky eating.
I have seen the methods of Jo Cormack, picky eating consultant do wonders.
The overprotective “Jewish Mother” model is “traditionally” Jewish only in a recent sense (just like some “traditional” dress codes or attitudes toward Jewish sovereignty are but recent perversions).