Learning Empathy from Megillas Esther – Avraham Rivkas

Here’s a Hebrew article I wrote for “Beino Uveini”, a Parsha Sheet on interpersonal relationships (yeah, I mean Chessed). The tone is meant to be slightly humorous.

Enjoy!

ניחום או אונאת דברים?

מרדכי והמן (הי, לא להרעיש!) לא ממש היו חברים… בחלק ה”מהפך” שבמגילת אסתר למדים אנו כיצד הוכרח המן לבזות את עצמו עד עפר. אחשורוש צווה על המן לקחת את מרדכי, להלבישו בגדי מלכות, לרוץ לפניו, ולגדל את כבודו. זה לא היה נעים להמן כלל.

הרי המן תכנן אותה שעה לתלות את מרדכי על כך שאינו משתחוה לו. הדבר האחרון שהיינו מצפים ממנו בשעה זאת, אבל וחפוי ראש, הוא לטרוח ולספר את המקרה לאחרים. מה דחוף לו לפרסם את קלונו הלאה? אך כך אכן נוהג המן. המגילה מפרטת (ו’ י”ב): “ויספר המן לזרש אשתו ולכל אהביו את כל אשר קרהו ויאמרו לו חכמיו וזרש אשתו אם מזרע היהודים מרדכי אשר החלות לנפל לפניו לא תוכל לו כי נפול תפול לפניו”.

יש עוד מספר תמיהות לשוניות וסיפוריות. לעיל (ה’ י’) נכתב “אוהביו ואת זרש אשתו”, וכאן מגלים סדר הפוך. למה? תחילה נקראים אנשיו בתואר “אוהביו”, ואח”כ כ”חכמיו”. מדוע? חכמיו דנים “אם מזרע היהודים מרדכי…”, כאילו הדבר מוטל בספק. מה, מישהו עוד לא מכיר את עובדת היות “מרדכי היהודי”, יהודי?

על דרך הפשט ניתן לבאר שהמן ביקש “כתף לבכות עליה”. לכן סיפר “את כל אשר קרהו”. המן לא בא לגלות להם חדשות טכניות, אלא לשפוך את ליבו אל אשתו ואף אל אוהביו, בתקוה לשמוע מהם דברי נחמה. אנשיו היו צריכים לגלות כלפיו חמלה ואמפתיה. אבל תקוותיו נכזבו באחת. פתאום הפכו לו ידידיו ל”חכמים” גדולים, עם טיעונים לוגיים יבשים או חשבונות מתמטיים. אם א’ אז ב’, אם מרדכי יהודי, אתה אבוד. ניתוח אסטרטגי מתנשא אותו טורחים הם לפרט לו בארוכה, משל שאלתו לא נגעה אליו אישית. גם אשתו לא מיהרה לעזרתו. הווה אומר, הנטישה עצמה מעידה על נכונות נבואת הבלהות…

אל תבינו לא נכון, אין מה להצטער בצער המן, אבל יש ללמוד מכאן לקח. להבדיל ממעשי הרשעים, התורה מלמדת אותנו את מידת החמלה. “אם היו יסורים באים עליו, אם היו חלאים באים עליו, אל יאמר כדרך שאמרו חבריו לאיוב, ‘הלא יראתך כסלתיך תקותך ותום דבריך, זכר נא מי הוא נקי אבד'” (ב”מ נ”ח ב’). “אין מרצין לו לאדם בשעת כעסו” (ברכות ז’ א’). אם אין לך ניחום וחיזוק, שמור על שתיקה. השתתף בצער חברך בהקשבה. כדאי גם ללמוד פרטי הלכות אונאת דברים בשו”ע חושן משפט סימן רכ”ח.

יהי רצון שנזכה להיות חברים אמתיים, ותהיה אך תורת חסד על לשוננו.

הערה: חלק מהנקודות מתוך ספר יוסף לקח.

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Amalek: Rabbi Malinowitz zatzal Writes In Blood

First Parshas Zachor… And Then Purim

Due to the vagaries of newspaper deadlines (even at a weekly paper), the words you are presently reading are being written with dichotomous emotions. On the one hand, I have to stay focused on the fact that the reader will be reading this when heavily into the Purim spirit, perhaps on Purim itself (don’t laugh — anything is possible after a couple of ad d’lo yoda’s, even reading Chadash!). Yet they are also being written on a day of great tragedy, sorrow, and anguish. I speak of the horrific murders of five members of the Fogel family of Itamar this past Leil Shabbos, with the funerals taking place on Sunday.

From Arabs I expect nothing less. This is who they are, and what they are. But for a “rabbi” to stand up and state (according to newspaper reports) during his eulogy of those slaughtered, the moronic statement that, “Hashem will take nekama, not people” only a few days before we read Parshas Zachor, about the mitzvah of totally destroying Amalek, is depressing beyond words. And a week before a Yom Tov in whose megillah it says that the Jews utterly destroyed, killed, and slew their enemies (Esther 9:5) who wanted to do them harm… and that the Jews of Shushan asked for an extra day in order to kill more of them, and hung Haman’s sons up high for all to see (Esther 9:13)! Does this “rabbi” have in his megillah the words that mine does — that the fear of the Jews and the fear of Mordechai fell upon the Jews’ enemies (Esther 9:2, 3)? Who is afraid of whom in Eretz Yisroel, rachamana litzlan?! Why anything remains standing in the Arab village of Avratta (from where the murderers came) is a mystery to me. And if anyone reading this is shocked by my words, I would expect at least an embarrassed silence during the week of reading “You shall utterly destroy any vestige of Amalek,” with the mitzvah to read this parshah being seen as the cause to inculcate our readiness and eagerness to strike back and destroy those who would destroy us. It is fascinating for me to see how most people read the word “vestige” twice (zeicherzecher) to make sure they capture every possible nuance in the reading, yet recoil at the thought of actually doing anything of the sort! And do people listen to the haftarah of Parshas Zachor? Do they know that we had to undergo the near-destruction of the Jewish people on Purim because of Shaul Hamelech’s misplaced pity, his unwillingness to “take revenge”? And “revenge” for an attack which had occurred many hundreds of years before!

Are you and I helpless to do anything, dear reader (as another eminent “rabbi” said there, according to reports I’ve read)? Well, maybe we are personally helpless, but are we collectively demanding that there be some reaction on the part of those who have the capabilities to act, or are we just shedding tears and mouthing pieties? Do we see the need, the imperative, the chillul Hashem we are engendering if we do not demand that those who can, take action? And to talk, six days before Parshas Zachor and Purim, about how Jews do not take nekamah can only be described as “Purim Torah,” which should have waited until next Sunday.

But let there be no mistake. The reason that we are to eradicate Amalek, the reason that we look forward to his destruction, the reason that we celebrate it, is that it is nothing less than the eradication of… evil! Amalek’s — and the Arabs’ — gripe, is ultimately with Hashem, or to be more specific, the G-d of the Jews. Amalek is, after all, the most acute and fanatical of the children of Esav (see Rambam Sefer Hamitzvos aseh # 188: to destroy Amalek, from among the descendants of Esav), the Esav who never quite got over Yaakov’s taking of the brachos, and the bechorah. And the Arabs, of course, base their “claim” to Eretz Yisroel on their perspective that it is Yishmael, not Yitzchak, who is the carrier of the torch of Avraham Avinu.

This is why, alone amongst all other mitzvos in the Torah, we find an eerily similar phrase obligating Bnei Yisroel to destroy Amalek (machoh timcheh es zeicher Amalek) and Hashem’s promise that He would do so (ki mahchoh emcheh es zeicher Amalek). We are playing for high stakes — after all, Hashem states that His malchus (in the possuk which states this, the words used are His Throne and His [full] name) is lacking until the eradication of those who would deny Him.

The Gra, in his special commentary to Chanah’s Prayer, explains that Esav has four points of attack, which he exercised at four points in history. Not having the space to present the entire, beautiful, deep piece, suffice it to say that Haman was attacking, according the Gra, the uniqueness of Klal Yisroel’s relationship with Hashem — Klal Yisroel inasmuch as they are, as described in the sixth perek of Avos, kinyan echad, one of the capital assets, one of the primary possessions, of Hakadosh Baruch Hu in the world. Not Klal Yisroel per se, the Gra is saying — but rather their singularity as Hashem’s agents in this world.

The Gra explains in his commentary to Megillas Esther (8:16) that the four mitzvos alluded to in that possuk (orah v’simcha v’sasson v’yikar — Torah, Yom Tov, milah, and tefillin) are special in that they are osos, signs, insignias, symbols of the Jews’ affiliation and bond with Hashem. And as Haman, a scion of Amalek, tried to eradicate that association, upon his defeat the Jews reaffirmed precisely those very signposts of our status.

Well, I never reached discussing Purim — the joy, the gaiety, the frolic, the conviviality, the merrymaking. No, not today, a day of funerals and sadness, of melancholy and despondency. But before Purim comes Parshas Zachor… as the Gemara in Megillah states, the zechirah (remembering, realizing, and acknowledging the evil) MUST precede the asiyah (the eradication of it, and the celebration of that eradication).

And maybe, if we are moved to that awareness, we will merit celebrating the Grand Purim of yemos haMashiach, when Amalek and all the Hamans will be gone, and Hashem — and Klal Yisroel, His loyal servants — will reign supreme.

March 24th, 2011
From BTYA, here.

Here is the original:

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From “CHADASH Beit Shemesh Weekly” vol. 631, English section Page 4.

Long, Slow Niggun On Purim Prayer

Reb Yosef Tabak, a man of many talents, offered his own ‘pshat‘ in one of the very moving pessukim in Megilas Esther, with a niggun he composed, which is quickly spreading through homes, yeshivos and hearts. The niggun was recorded by a group of yungeleit in one of the many kollelim he helps support. It is an exceptional niggun, and is helping many people connect with the avodas hayom.

POEM: Your Sabbath Day

“DE PROFUNDIS”

by poet and essayist Esther Cameron

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Source: B’OR HA’TORAH JOURNAL OF SCIENCE, LIFE AND ART IN THE LIGHT OF THE TORAH (1987) vol. 6 p. 121.

(Purchase the whole volume on JCT here or other issues here.)

I assume this is allowed under the doctrine of Fair Use.

 

 

Derech Emunah – The First Official Chareidi Outpost

So, What’s this Outpost Thing?

Yoel Berman

Driving with some friends in the Binyamin region of Eretz Yisrael just north of Yerushalayim, just a few short minutes past the northern Yerushalayim neighborhood of Neve Yaakov, we pass by the hilltop outpost of Giv’at Asaf. It consists of several houses built using light construction materials. These structures made of panels of insulated sheet-metal are commonly known in Israel as ‘caravanim’. Though you probably won’t find this definition in an English dictionary, an English speaker in Israel who uses the word ‘caravan’ is more likely to be referring to one of these than to a mobile home.

The government policy of not creating any new settlements on this side of the Green Line means it is impossible to get this land zoned for residential housing, and therefore any construction here would be illegal. Does that mean that Jewish construction doesn’t happen? Well, that’s a different story…

Continuing with the Mitzvah

Eli of the Nachala movement fills us in with some background. “The expulsion from Gush Katif caused a crisis in the settlement movement. There were many who thought it was maybe time to move on and invest in other undertakings, such as going back to live in the cities and do kiruv outreach, and neglect this mitzvah of yishuv Eretz Yisrael. The Nachala movement was then initiated by Moshe Levinger z”l, to continue with the settlement enterprise.”

The objective of Nachala is to arouse the Jewish people to settle the Land of Israel. From a Torah point-of-view, there are two parts to the mitzvah of yishuv Eretz Yisrael; one part is not to leave the Land in the hands of other nations, and the other part is not to leave the land desolate, but to actively settle it. While the first part may possibly be fulfilled with Jewish military control, Nachala wants to see a continuation of the second part, too.

Over time, and as a result of government policies due to American pressure not allowing new construction, there came to be a perception even among the people living in the settlements, that whatever is outside the surrounding fence is not ours, and does not legitimately and unquestionably belong to the Jewish people to settle there as we wish. It may be that the sense of less security outside the fence contributed to this feeling. This is something that Nachala is working to change.

Establishing a Presence

Nachala started with building small outposts outside existing settlements, such as Ma’oz Esther, Shevut Ami, and Ramat Migron. They suffered (and continue to suffer) many demolitions and evacuations by the army, the State and the Civil Administration, but perseverance is the name of the game.

With time and experience, and advice from professionals – legal, political, construction – they learn what works and what doesn’t. The legal status of the land they want to build on, the distance from an existing settlement, and other factors such as the army’s interest in a Jewish presence for security purposes, can determine what level of risk there is that the government will demolish or evacuate. The higher the risk, the less is invested in more permanent construction and infrastructure. First tents are put up, and people come in shifts. Once an outpost becomes more established, more is invested and people build more permanent housing, like the caravans we first saw in Giv’at Asaf, or even cement homes. There is no guarantee for permanence though; there can always be personnel changes in Civil Administration or the like that can bring a change of attitude towards an outpost. In some cases, the outposts may eventually be retroactively authorized and legalized.

A caravan home can cost anywhere between 30,000 shekels for a really basic structure, and up to 100,000 shekels for something considerably more advanced. Many times after a demolition, a fundraising campaign is undertaken to rebuild what had been destroyed.

There are outposts that after many years are still subject to periodical demolitions, and there are those that are largely left intact. Though they are both illegal, Ma’oz Esther belongs to the former group and Havot Gil’ad belongs to the latter. The difference is in the factors previously mentioned.

One of the strategies used by Nachala is to continuously create a new frontier. Building new outposts causes the existing ones to be considered more established, and lowers their risk of demolition.

Life on the Outpost

The perseverance required means that only idealists take up the challenge. Once they are in, though, they stay for quality of life too. The lack of materialism, the connection to nature, the serenity, and the breathtaking views are hard to find elsewhere. Some idealism must stay because there always is a risk of the hardships of demolition and evacuation. Eli himself has moved from one outpost which suffered repeated demolitions, to another which is considered more established. It had gotten to a point where it was too much for his family to bear.

Traditionally, it has mostly been people from the Dati-Leumi (National Religious) sector that have been involved in this enterprise, though there is some interest from others as well, including recently from some Chareidim. Generally, the initial group forming an outpost is created by friends and acquaintances, or by people who were living in the nearby settlement, so these outposts are usually homogenous. There is generally an absorption committee made up of some residents, to make sure the people who want to join are normal and compatible with the outpost environment. An outpost typically consists of anywhere between one to fifty families.

I was surprised when Eli told me that most people living in outposts do not hold guns. I thought that this would be a requirement which would preclude most Chareidim from joining this enterprise, but apparently it isn’t. Each outpost does have someone constantly on guard though. Additionally, although the outposts are officially illegal, the army does generally provide security for Jews in these areas.

Almost everyone living on an outpost does have a car, though. Even if there is public transportation to the area, it is usually to an established legitimate settlement, and access from there to the outpost is only by private car. This may be an obstacle for many Chareidim, where car ownership is not very common due to heavy reliance on public transportation. Eli tells me that there are some outpost dwellers, like some young couples just starting out in life, who do not own cars, but they usually try to save up so that within a year or two they can afford one. This may not be so difficult because they are usually not paying rent. Meanwhile, they manage by getting rides from others.

The outposts rely a lot on the infrastructure of the nearby settlements. New outposts generally start with a water tank, but eventually, connection to water and electricity is usually willingly provided by the nearby settlement, facilitated by a good working connection between the local authorities and the management of the outposts. Some settlements even go out of their way to help the nearby outposts as much as possible. Shopping, education, and other services are usually available in the nearby settlement.

The people living in outposts are involved in all trades and practices, though there may be a bigger percentage involved in agriculture and construction. There are also mothers raising large families with children of all ages.

On Behalf of Klal Yisrael

Being that these outposts are considered illegal by the Israeli government (just for the record, by international law Modi’in Illit and Beitar Illit are also considered illegal), I was wondering if outpost residents are generally anti-establishment fringe elements of society, or if this illegal residency may otherwise cause people to be less law-abiding.

Eli explains, “The vast majority of people know to differentiate between the laws. They understand that what we are doing is with the backing of the Jewish nation, and that these are just political laws stemming from pressure coming from the gentiles. Of course, there are always some youth that think they can do whatever they want, but they eventually come to realize that normative rules and laws must be kept.”

There is a limit to the enforcement of laws which are not backed by the public. Eli relates that he has been taken in for interrogation about his illegal settlement activity, and they have all the information about him if they wanted to press charges, but they cannot do so from a public perspective. He says that is part of Nachala’s strategy – to ensure there is wide public backing for what they are doing. He says the greater the public backing –  even if just from the settlement population – the more difficult it is for the authorities to demolish and evict.

He notes that even the mainstream Leftists do not look at the settlers as lawless thugs just for the act of settling. They always try to find other things with which to portray settlers in a bad light.

Not minimizing their contribution to the effort to retain land in Jewish hands, Eli notes that the hilltop youth, who usually act alone and with less public backing, are sometimes apprehended and harassed by the authorities, He says that aside from minimizing risk, acting with public backing means the activities are done more authentically in the name and on behalf of the Jewish nation.

What Is It All About?

Up until about 20 years ago, the State of Israel still allowed Jews to establish hilltop communities all over Yehuda, Shomron, and Gaza, which was usually done with caravans. It was done by unwritten agreement as something in the national interest. Then the Americans started heavily pressuring the Israeli government to stop allowing this, and this caused a change in Israeli policy.

If they could have their way, the Arabs would have long ago taken over large swaths of land. In general, nobody is stopping them from building and expanding to their hearts’ content. It was recently discovered that the Arabs, with the generous help of the European Union, have devised a plan to inhabit all areas of Yehuda and Shomron currently unpopulated by Jews, by the year 2030. Unfortunately, the facts on the ground show that they are progressing as planned. If action is not taken now, it will chalilah be too late.

It is Nachala’s hope that the public action, awareness and backing will create enough political pressure on the government to change its policies and legally allow Jewish settlement.

What now?

With the technical guidance of Nachala, and the rabbinical guidance of Rav Refoel Kook shlita (son of Rav Simcha zt”l of Rechovot), the first Chareidi outpost – Derech Emunah – is being established, in a strategic area about 2 kilometers from the Chareidi yishuv of Meitzad.

Derech Emunah.jpeg

We are doing the hishtadlus that we can, and for this we need as much public backing as we can get. That – is up to you!

With HaShem’s help, we will publicize periodical updates as this historic project unfolds.


Enjoyed the article? Want to be an active part of this?
Here’s the Avira D’Eretz Yisroel link to the campaign for Derech Emunah.
(The campaign is a joint campaign for all the ma’achazim being established by Nachala.
All funds from the campaign through this link go towards the Derech Emunah project.)